A NEW APPROACH TO VOICE DIALOGUE How to make positive changes in your life (the changes you want, the changes that really make a difference) by expanding your self awareness and increasing your sense of self-empowerment.  Find out who you really are, achieve what you really want to with your life. Over 50 pages of information (all FREE to copy)

This is the alternate Self-Awareness Website in the  Growing Awareness Series*


FREE  BOOKS 
There are also a number of free books which I am happy to send you which introduce you to some of the main topics covered in the "Growing Awareness Set" These include :

1. Introduction to Negative Core Belief Balancing. You cannot download this free book. Please e-mail me at bligh3@growingaware.com and I will send it to you as a pdf file free of any cost or obligation.

2.Loving Your Inner Child You cannot download this free book. Please e-mail me at bligh3@growingaware.com and I will send it to you as a pdf file free of any cost or obligation.

3. Introduction to Voice Dialogue You cannot download this free book. Please e-mail me at bligh3@growingaware.com and I will send it to you as a pdf file free of any cost or obligation.

4. My new book Introduction to Emotional Age Awareness. You cannot download this free book. Please e-mail me at bligh3@growingaware.com and I will send it to you as a pdf file free of any cost or obligation.


wpe1C.jpg (9932 bytes)   My original 412 page text book "Growing Awareness" published in 2000" is no longer in print. Instead I have converted that old book into a  series of more than 10 new and revised books, the "Growing Awareness set".
 



* Websites in the Growing Awareness Series

www.flyingawareness.com
www.emotional-age-power.com

www.love-your-inner-child.com
www.core-beliefs-balance.com

www.growing-aware.com.au
www.growingaware.net

and our special site about Healing Your Relationships

Our Voice Dialogue flagship site is now www.voice-dialogue-inner-self-awareness.com
 

Core Belief and Self Awareness Workshops using Voice Dialogue - Brisbane Northside and Brisbane South-west; Gold Coast (Queensland) and Near North coast. - e-mail me bligh3@growingaware.com for details.

 

Over 50 pages of information (all FREE to copy) on ways to make positive changes in your life (the changes you want, the changes that really make a difference) by expanding your self awareness and increasing your sense of self-empowerment.

Discover what happens when you discuss what you are doing and thinking with your own inner protector characters, or you interview your inner selves*, meet and talk with your own sub-personalities, . It really doesn't matter what you call them or how you do it - it's easy to do and it works...   (see your invitation at the foot of each page  confirming FREE copying)   

*These pages are based on a simplified, easy to follow (BUT alternative) explanation of the well known voice dialogue process and how and why it works so well.



Voice dialogue and self awareness work are easier to apply and understand when explained using an alternative story-telling approach (less psychology more practical and down-to-earth examples). This alternative approach is explored and explained on this Alternate Growing Awareness   website. (scroll down) See new postings and new links - newest pages are identified by their "2010" extensions. All free to copy.   

Other websites   Go to  Love your Inner child
The site is all about your inner child. The wonderful part of you and me that never grows up. Interested?  

Go to  Core belief Balance -  A website devoted to balancing your hidden negative core beliefs and the clamps and blockages and over-reactions they cause in peoples lives

If you would prefer to stay with the classic Voice Dialogue approach go to our flagship Voice dialogue website  http://www.voice-dialogue-inner-self-awareness.com

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Welcome to 
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FREE GROWING AWARENESS BOOKS

THIS SITE WILL INTEREST YOU IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO KNOW MORE ABOUT:

  • Making positive changes in your life  the changes you want (the changes that will really make a difference) making changes the way you want to make them and at your own pace.

  • Personal growth and freedom through self-awareness, increasing the number of choices you have in life.

  • Making your relationships work. Partnering skills, developing intimacy, trust and stronger linkage.                                             
                              

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    Free Inner Self Profile Sheet
    For many years I have been using an Inner Self profile sheet that allows you to keep a visual record of your inner selves as you meet and talk with them. There are different places for different kinds of selves on the sheet according to their different energies or the different ways they do things to protect you.

  • Now I have added to these sheets and it is all in a free book "Introduction to Voice Dialogue"
    Please go to my main website www.flyingawareness.com where you can download this free book

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Voice Dialogue and Growing Awareness Groups

1. Brisbane - Taringa. Toowong, Indooroopilly, St Lucia -  Voice Dialogue and Growing Awareness Training - e-mail or phone 07 3261 2882 or Mobile 0414 57 00 16 for details and map  Fourth Tuesday of each month. 7:15 pm to 10pm   

2. Brisbane - Bald Hills, Aspley Chermside, Strathpine, Sandgate  Voice Dialogue and Growing Awareness Training - e-mail or phone 07 3261 2882 or Mobile 0414 57 00 16 for details and map  Third Tuesday of each month. 7:15 pm to 10pm   

3. Gold Coast -  

4.  North Coast (Nambour Yandina Noosa Maroochydore Buderim Maleny) Voice Dialogue and Growing Awareness Training -  e-mail or phone 07 3261 2882 or Mobile 0414 57 00 16 for details and map 


         
                                                                      

Because the dream did not come to reality in the way he expected, he rejected the dream. A new and more detailed explanation of Self Awareness work and the Inner Child. Which comes first? Understanding your Inner Child or Helping your inner child understand you?
 

Boundaries are not “Rules” or “Walls” -  

Using boundaries is a natural and normal activity. Developing good boundaries is also part of growing your own self-awareness and self empowerment. One of the main reasons people don't do this already is because no one taught them how or gave them any examples to follow. If you grew up in a family environment where there were few if any boundaries, it is more than likely that you won't really know what these things are.  It's always harder to try something new if we feel we have no idea of how to do it. It's even harder if we tried to do it as a child and failed, even though the reason it didn't work might not have been our fault. 

Another reason is that as a child most of us were told that it was wrong, selfish, or shameful to be assertive or have our own boundaries. Many of us were severely punished for daring to try to set a boundary. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you having strong boundaries. It's just another example of the same situation we've talked about before, in our society most people don't want a kid to feel self-empowered or to be self-aware. Click here to read the whole article

A fable about the Characters in your inner Village and How Awareness Grows -
This is a story about a boy and a girl who live in a small village. Even though they were both in their late teens they had never met. But there were some things they had in common. For a start the each of them kept noticing how  people in their village found it hard to deal with life and its day-to-day problems. 
So much of what went on in the village was more complicated than it should have been. The boy and the girl each wondered why and wished there was something they could do to help.
For example, many of the people who lived in the village got really worked up if things went wrong or if somebody didn't agree with them. They found it hard to see things clearly. To limit their confusion they usually did the same job the same way, day after day, rather than trying anything new or different.  It's true that repeating the same old pattern got the usual results just as they expected.  But all too often those results didn’t work as well as people would have liked.

What's this got to do with you and me and our self-awareness? - As this fable explains it's often like this with aspects of our daily lives when they are handled by our "inner villagers". (click here for the rest of the story)  As the boy and the girl begin climbing up Awareness Hill behind the village so much starts to become clear for the first time.

Choosing between personal and Impersonal channels   Everybody has a choice as to whether they communicate through their personal or impersonal channels. And everyone needs to know how to use each one at different times. It’s equally important to know when not to use each channel. Usually we switch automatically and this can lead to problems. Or we can get stuck on one channel not knowing how to switch to the other. Learning to use both channels consciously is not difficult.

Rules for the School of Life -  
1. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called Life.  Each day you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think your assignments are stupid and irrelevant but each one has a purpose that is special for you.

2. An assignment will be repeated until you have learned that lesson. Do  you find yourself experiencing the same (unpleasant) event again and again? One of your current learning projects is to discover whatever you need to do so it either stops happening or no longer affects you . There are another 9 rules like this click here,

The fable of the Two Explorers  
Once there was a small band explorers who discovered a wonderful new land peopled by a number of  fascinating tribes which they named the "inner villagers". In time they learned the language of the inner villagers and were able to dialogue with them. From this they learned much about the land itself, the habits of the tribes and what went on in each of the local inner villages that made up the territory.

Bottom line issues
 

One of the reasons for interviewing your inner protector characters (inner selves) is to learn from them about your bottom line or life issues and to be able to distinguish these from what may seem important but which turn out to be only symptoms pointing to the real issues.

Identifying a life issue starts when you notice a group of similar and repetitive problem patterns. You or someone you know keeps experiencing these same patterns again and again through life. If it's a bottom line issue it will keep coming up in different ways, in your conversation, how you see other people, what irritates you in others, what you like in other people. It will usually stand out in the kind of work you do and how you like that  work, the kind of films you enjoy, how you like to relax. Whatever you do, wherever you go there it is again. That's a life issue.

Your most powerful "life issues" are related to the problems that worry you most, but they may also be involved in some of your best solutions.

Addictive cycles - over medication and vulnerability      It is normal for people to try to reduce their pain and emotional pain is no exception. A person experiencing deep emotional wounding or anxiety is extremely vulnerable and will do whatever they can to block it. When the helpful protector characters in your inner village (inner selves) run out of ways to reduce the pain and can no longer provide protection, the next thing is to try substances or processes from outside the village. At first these often seem to work almost miraculously, so the process is repeated more and more often. But sooner or later the treatment starts to lose its effectiveness.

 "Is it really safe for me to change?"      Please read this page first -
Making changes in your life using the methods described in these pages is great ,but only if you are ready to change. And that includes self assurance about change itself. It's better not to make changes until you feel really confident about them and their effect on your life. The  methods we describe here do work, but the changes can be fast and powerful. It's important to understand what is going to happen before you begin. Then you can change with confidence.

Power, control and individuality issues in relationships  

Choosing Between Personal and Impersonal Channels -  

Muddled Magic and the Little Trauma Witch -  

The troublesome ten percent

Four levels of Self Awareness and self empowerment



Our alternative approach ....................

Our Growing Awareness  story-telling approach as explained on this website is  based very closely on Hal and Sidra Stone's Psychology of the Selves (and voice dialogue).
The process (if you are familiar with "voice dialogue") is still voice dialogue. The difference is in the way we explain it. We follow an alternative, more down to earth, storytelling path to describe what is happening. It's an experiment to see if there is a less complicated way to explain and simplify self-awareness work so people can use it more easily and get results sooner. 

You'll notice that these new articles use different (non-technical) almost child-like terms to describe the process you already know as "voice dialogue".  

We are finding this storytelling approach also helps people feel safer about using inner self awareness to understand what their inner selves are doing and how and why they are do it.  What is exciting is the way it is producing observable results (longer lasting and more effective changes) as explained in the new pages (listed as links) below.
Keep in mind that process is still the same - only the description has changed. And that's what the experiment is about. For example, we use lots of fables, metaphor, parables, imagery, analogies, easy to visualise, non-psychological descriptions to help people get started on their climb towards self awareness and begin making changes in their lives. Some people even refer to it as the "Harry Potter and the Hobbits approach to Self-Awareness"

It seems to work anyway, whether you call it  "voice dialogue " or try the more every-day terms we are experimenting with.  We know that other people around the world are also trying similar alternative approaches. If you are reading this and would like to make contact please e-mail us: bligh3@growingaware.com 


What is in in these Growing Awareness  pages?  
To find out more about these alternate methods click on the linked pages below. 

1. "Is it really safe for me to change?"          Please read this page first -
Making changes in your life using the methods described in these pages is great ,but only if you are ready to change. And that includes self assurance about change itself. It's better not to make changes until you feel really confident about them and their effect on your life. The  methods we describe here do work, but the changes can be fast and powerful. It's important to understand what is going to happen before you begin. Then you can change with confidence.

Guidelines to working with Inner villagers -

2. Characters who live and work in your Inner Village

Muddled Magic and the Little Trauma Witch -  

Carried villagers - "refugees" from someone else's village   

3. Main Parts of your Inner Village

Growing Awareness and   Voice Dialogue - Similarities and Differences    How the terms used in Growing Awareness differ from   Voice Dialogue

4. Other Interesting Parts of your Inner Village

The Complex corner   

5. Simplified terms used in the alternate  Inner Village storytelling approach

6. Reasons behind the change from   Voice Dialogue to the simplified Inner Village storytelling approach (these pages may be of more interest to practicing facilitators)

Why tell stories rather than talk psychology? -  

Growing Awareness and   Voice Dialogue - Similarities and Differences Part 1- How the terms used in Growing Awareness pages differ from   Voice Dialogue  - Other differences  - Some New types of "opposite" characters that are not disowned  

Growing Awareness and   Voice Dialogue - Similarities and Differences Part 2- How the terms used in Growing Awareness pages differ from   Voice Dialogue  - Other differences  - Some New types of "opposite" characters that are not disowned  

How do you measure the effectiveness of inner self work?  (are you making changes that really make a difference?) -   

A search for a way to speed up the changes and make them last longer -  

A deeper psychological discussion of the theory behind the experimental Village and the Awareness Hill storytelling approach

Practicing  voice dialogue facilitators (  Voice Dialogue or  Growing Awareness) anywhere in Australia, please send us your contact details if you would like to be added to our list  -  (Australia only)
Listings are FREE of course.
  We are also happy to include links to your website on our site on a mutual basis


Pages about making Relationships Work

Power, control and individuality issues in relationships  

Choosing Between Personal and Impersonal Channels -  

Fights where inner matriarchs and inner patriarchs take over -  

Characteristics of the Inner Patriarch and Inner Matriarch -

Explanation of Bonding Patterns -    

Bonding patterns  - Case Studies1 - 

Bonding patterns  - Case Studies2 -

Bonding Patterns - getting out of them - 

The Many Languages of Love

Personal and impersonal styles 


Introduction to working with Inner Mother and Inner Father

Inner Mother and Inner Father - the Induction Process -

Example of Inner parent induction - Inner father - 


YOU CAN CHOOSE ......

  VOICE DIALOGUE is the process developed by Drs Hal and Sidra Stone. It still works as well as ever, we love it, we still use it daily with our clients, and support it 100%.
We still conduct regular training in Voice Dialogue in Brisbane and in the Noosa Cooroy area.
To read and copy articles about   VOICE DIALOGUE click on this link  http://www.voice-dialogue-inner-self-awareness.com

 

LATEST LINKS   Click here

OTHER LINKS OF INTEREST
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We invite you to copy and print any information on this site for your own use  FREE of any payment. These articles, including many extracts from the book "Growing Awareness" can help you make the changes you want to make in your life, improve your self esteem, loving and  relationships and bring more and success into everything you do.

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FINDING OTHER FREE ARTICLES OF INTEREST

1. Normal Multiple Personalty states in Contrast with Dissociative Identity Disorder. There is a very significant difference between having many different inner selves or personality states within us (which can be normal and healthy or can cause some problems) and DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder (which used to be known as "Multiple Personality Disorder".) Media presenters often fail to appreciate this when they talk about personality issues. In fact they even tend to confuse DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder with Schizophrenia.

2. Some other recent articles (not included in the book "Growing Awareness" published March 2000) are also included on this website.   For a list of these articles click on Other Recent Articles 1996 - - 2012

3. Earlier articles (not included in the book "Growing Awareness" published March 2000) are also included on this website.   For a list of these articles click on Other Past Articles 2000-2002

4. Miscellaneous articles including personal profile  John Bligh Nutting (personal details and photo) 

5. Bibliography - an extensive list of publications by many different authors (going back to the 1930's).   Models of Multiplicity Ego States and Multipersonality models. These  help trace the sources of ideas on inner self work, psychodrama, sub-personalities, voice dialogue ego states and much more

6. Other Articles Miscellaneous


How to contact John Nutting

E-mail to bligh3@growingaware.com

Mail: Growing Awareness
PO BOX 133   Bald Hills   4036
Queensland Australia

Phone :  61  Area code from  overseas (7) 3261 2882

From within Australia:   07 3261 2882 

Mobile/cell phone:  0414 57 0016

Profile: If you are curious enough to want to know a bit about me (John Nutting) my history, training and family background (a couple of photos) my dog and even a short voice recording you can click here.  

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